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Sexual codependency
Sexual codependency As sexual beings, many of us have moved beyond what society deemed acceptable sexually, a long time ago. With...
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Oct 28, 20212 min read
Why it is helpful to understand your thought process
Understanding your thought pattern The impact of most of our triggers can be minimised, eliminated or managed by understanding our...
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Oct 28, 20213 min read
When the relationship is changing gradually and without notice
Relationships normally start really well, with both of you eager to know each other. You try your best and do, most likely your best. You...
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Oct 27, 20212 min read
Understanding your triggers
Understanding your triggers The Stoics remind us to take responsibility and to buy tranquility. The only way we can establish tranquility...
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Oct 27, 20213 min read
What kind of person do you think your partner wants?
Before you expect a partner who shows up for you, ask yourself, what your partner is looking for? Do you believe that your partner is...
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Oct 26, 20212 min read
Healing is simple and practical
Healing is simple and practical Sometimes we believe healing to be complex. We walk into a meeting or therapy or counselling hoping that...
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Oct 26, 20213 min read
Self reparenting
Give yourself at least 30 minutes to 1 hour a day to make yourself a priority. 10 minutes in the morning ▪︎5 minutes of meditation with...
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Oct 26, 20211 min read
Repeated threats of suicide when you are not doing what they want.
When you are in a relationship with someone who threatens suicide to make you change behaviour, or where you keep doing everything you...
Memory
Oct 25, 20212 min read
Getting to know yourself on a deeper
An alternative way you are likely to live a life of unconditional peacefulness and satisfaction, is through the practice of acceptance....
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Oct 25, 20213 min read
Why do you need to stop controlling or managing a partner
Controlling and managing others is a distraction which makes you avoid facing your own problems or creating solutions for your life. In...
Memory
Oct 24, 20212 min read
What self-development through a self-care routine helps you to achieve.
Doing the work is the way to heal your existence. You might do the work in different ways, but emotional healing and cognitive...
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Oct 24, 20212 min read
When a partner gives you the silent treatment
Focus on yourself and do not try to fix. Invest in love on three levels Do not initiate contact. If you live together, focus on yourself....
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Oct 23, 20211 min read
The best time to heal or to apply tools
What we might believe is that during a crisis, we need to focus on the crisis. However, during a crisis is the time we need tools to...
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Oct 23, 20212 min read
Why we have to do nothing instead of trying to change a partner
If we recognise that a partner's behaviour is feedback about how he feels about the dynamic, we would not need to do anything for the...
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Oct 22, 20213 min read
Your compassion needs to include you
When we are still on the journey of healing our major traumas, we might have this belief that we are loving others by allowing them to...
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Oct 22, 20212 min read
Let go of managing and controlling a partner
Let go of managing and controlling a partner Avoid helping him or giving him unsolicited advice. Whether it is to help him to get a ...
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Oct 21, 20213 min read
The outdated version of yourself
As you are healing, do not allow anyone to resuscitate and interact with an older version of you that is outdated, and to take you back...
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Oct 21, 20212 min read
Do not allow back the older version of you.
As you are healing, do not allow anyone to interact with an older version of you that is outdated, and to take you back to your wounded...
Memory
Oct 21, 20212 min read
The fear of upsetting a partner with space
Space is an important element of healthy relationships. If you find yourself constantly wanting to be with a partner , day in , day out,...
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Oct 20, 20212 min read
The importance of a support group for healing
One of the important elements of healing and recovering from unhealthy relationship patterns, is to find a group of peers who are...
Memory
Oct 19, 20212 min read
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