Do not allow back the older version of you.

As you are healing, do not allow anyone to interact with an older version of you that is outdated, and to take you back to your wounded past.

Take a different route in situations where you might keep travelling back to previous you, and therefore stay stuck and not grow. To standing in doorways and shouting at people. To self-sabotage patterns and unhealthy decision-making. To self-betrayal and not acting in your best interest. To deception and lying to yourself. Break up with your older version that participated in reactions, when you are learning to respond. Turn down invitations to repeats of past episodes that are damaging to your dignity. Break up with toxic friendships that play out for the sake of belonging. Detach from an unboundaried version of yourself, who let people to determine your value and the value of what you do. Do not play out the self-disrespecting version of yourself that everyone used to walk all over. Do not invite back into the world , the victim you used to be. The victim who pointed fingers at everyone. Cut the cord from the helpless and hapless version of you, who did not know how to take charge of life, and had to rely on others for anything and everything. Avoid the return of the entitled, cynical, controlling and judgemental version of yourself you let go of. Do not unleash the unkind version of you to lash out and engage in wars that cause toxicity. Avoid the judgemental, the others focused, the time-wasting and procrastinating version of you who was happy when others were struggling.

Create distance between the the previous distrustful episodes of past you, who used to play out insecurities and jealousies that can ruin your life.

You are no longer the person who attached worthiness to relationships, money, looks and possessions.

Let not your buried self-betrayal resurface because you met people who look good on paper.

Remember, it is not the people you meet or the circumstances you get into that brings out the older version of you. It is your focus, not sitting with your discomfort in an objective evaluation, not exploring root cause, emphasis on problems instead of solutions, accommodating the inner critic instead of reframes, and abandoning the self instead of self-parenting.

Make it a full time job to keep an eye on your alignment, to maintain a state of unconditional peacefulness. Keep your head high and keep going. Sustain Maintain Retain your sense of self Your virtue Your self-love. Emotional intelligence Keep loving yourself and keep your focus on yourself, where it belongs.