Getting to know yourself on a deeper
- Memory
- Oct 25, 2021
- 3 min read
Updated: Oct 28, 2021
An alternative way you are likely to live a life of unconditional peacefulness and satisfaction, is through the practice of acceptance.
In order to practice acceptance, you will need to understand your behaviour.
What motivates your actions?
Why you behave as you do.
What thoughts and emotions accompany your behaviour?
What unmet needs underlie those thoughts and emotions.
Understand your strengths and weaknesses and leverage your weaknesses as opportunities for growth using the SWOT analysis in your healing. Also use the Johari Window, to understand the following arenas,
1. What the public and you know about you. This is what people and you openly share or express.
2. What you know about yourself that nobody else knows. This might be most of what you hide from others.
3. What others know about you that you do not know. This is what you might hear behind your back, or the whispers you cannot make out.
4. Unknown... What you and others do not know about you. This comes out gradually in moments of challenges. Or you might say, " That is not like me"
Acceptance is enhanced or facilitated by growth mindset. If you adopt growth mindset, that comes with an understanding of the impermanence of things, the understanding that we are all different and that there is uncertainty in life. That, there are things you do not want to face, but you have to. That, there are things you do not know about yourself, which you need to find out.
Acceptance involves a curiosity of your unknown arena and being open to facing your dark side. Being open to feedback also helps you to develop awareness of what others know about you that you need to know for growth.
Despite the happenings in life, we must still cultivate unconditional peacefulness. This is only possible with tools.
Tools to maintain a state of satisfaction through a focus of what is working, and to create solutions when things do not seem to be working. Practice self-care and appreciation to improve the emotional baseline.
You need....
Gratitude to accentuate the positives, meditation to reduce mind-body gap, affirmations to tune the subconscious mind,
deep breathing for calm,
setting an intention , to set the DNA for the day,
mindfulness to live consciously,
kindness to contribute and for less focus on the self,
boundaries to minimise triggers,
SIFTSEM to parent and manage triggers with solution focused rumination,
bedtime reflection to identify and work on developmental areas and improve character,
reframe your thoughts,
hug and soothing with five love languages and five senses for self-connection.
As you live through the day explore your mindset. If you feel as if you do not like some parts of yourself, deliberately make love to them with one or more of the five love languages. Send love to any part of yourself that you do not like, or which you are struggling to accept.
Close your eyes and send a loving breath to that part of you. If it accessible, touch it with love.
Speak words of love to it.
Let it know that it is a part of you, and you are accepting it as it is.
Any hate you possess for any part of yourself is not likely to invite complete love from others. As much as you might not like parts of yourself, it helps to recognise that, if you cannot change them, you need to accept them.
The more you make peace with all parts of you, changing what you can , such as reframing negative thoughts and regulating emotions, the more you like and get used to being you, the more you accept yourself as you are.
When you recognise your own patterns of strengths and weaknesses, you are most likely to identify self-sabotage and when you are letting yourself down. You are likely to apply your strengths as well as seeking support to help create solutions, and move forward and commit to your goals.
Ultimately, how you view yourself will be reflected in others you come into contact with.
Love yourself as you are.
Heal the inner child to connect with yourself
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