Healing is simple and practical

Healing is simple and practical

Sometimes we believe healing to be complex. We walk into a meeting or therapy or counselling hoping that someone is going to throw us a capsule containing a healing potion, with some intelligently articulated label scripted in a way that make us believe it was written by Einstein.

Sometimes we are so impressed by articulation and expression that we forget that "words do not teach." Healing is in the form of the work you do - self-work. Remember, your life is practically lived, with actions, words and c.

How you build a reputation with yourself.

How you build character.

How you do not dismiss anything happening within you or in your life, but without making it everyone else's problem either.

Your healing is very simple.

It is the everyday things that you can do or need to do that you take for granted.

Healing is in simple terms, giving yourself a loving and well meaning parent.

A well meaning parent implies that you do not ignore your need and how you feel. Your loving parent will supports you in your distress and joy, and this guides them to create decisions that are fit for purpose for you.

Simple things that a loving parent does are as follows:

1. Consistency with care for a child. Self-love with Self-work, addressing four dimensions of existence: physical, social, pyschological and spiritual. Paying your bills to avoid distress, feeding yourself and taking care of the body, your emotional regulation and cognitive restructuring, decision making, choosing healthy social circles with boundaries, and maintaining a spiritual practice.

2. Recognising the emotional currents of a child and responding to them with listening, empathy, soothing with love languages and five senses, reframes and creating solutions. SIFTSEM objective evaluation and emotional regulation for triggers is helpful to meet this requirement.

3. Being supportive and making decisions in the child's best interest. Discipline, protection and safety, managing, preventing addictions. Self-control and virtue.

Making and keeping promises to yourself to commit to yourself through self-care.

Managing and preventing stress.

To apply SIFTSEM and make decisions that are in your best interest.

To love on the second and third levels.

4. Play

Quality time with yourself and others doing what you enjoy

Your emotions provide a compass that leads you to recognise what you want and what you do not want. What you need to work on and what you need to let go of. Your emotions are not things to be feared, but the guidance you need to act in your best interest.

Healing is developing a trusted friend, family, lover and child in yourself. How you show up for you, is a demonstration of the criteria you are likely to apply, to screen those who show up for you in important relationships.

Healing is everyday and is for life, although initially there is a phase of "admission" or intensive treatment or healing where you heal your inner child. Make sure your healing is providing you with tools and long term, life long solutions.

If you do not prioritise your intensive phase of treatment, you are likely to continue patterns when you are in a romantic relationship. This is because, you have not set an example for yourself, you might not be conscious of your patterns, you might not know what it is to sacrifice time and prioritise yourself and you might not feel that you are worth your time and investment on a deeper level.