What kind of person do you think your partner wants?

Before you expect a partner who shows up for you, ask yourself, what your partner is looking for? Do you believe that your partner is looking for a parent or an equal? Do you believe your partner wants someone who tells them how to run their life, when they have been doing it all this time? Do you believe that your partner wants someone who tells them off or shouts at them? Do you think that your partner wants someone who calls them names? Do you believe your partner wants someone who cheats on them? Someone who beats them up? Someone who ignores them? Someone who controls them and tells them what to or how to eat, dress or sit? Someone who stops them from seeing their friends or family? How does this person fit in their life and enable quality of life? Are these behaviours in the best interest of your partner? And what do you want in a partner yourself? Do you want someone who does these things? How does that impact the quality of your life Do you think your partner is fulfilled with a desperate person who fixes, over functions and over explains. Or they want the prize? Someone who is self-loving, self-valuing and does not attach their happiness to a partner. If you want a healthy relationship, you need to be a healthy partner. You also need to choose a healthy partner. There is no way you can have a healthy relationship if one of you has toxic or unhealthy patterns. Otherwise, that becomes a codependent dynamic. Take responsibility for your healing and choose a situation that is in your best interest. Video coming in the next few days. Heal for your relationships.