Your romantic relationships can improve:

* If you do not treat romance like a life and death situation. Romantic relationships are awesome. Not having a partner or breaking up with one does not mean your life is at risk. * If you put importance in the quality of life. Prioritise peacefulness and contentment. * When you prioritise the self-relationship. Love yourself, and do something daily to show credibility to yourself. Make choices that are in your best interest. * Focus on what you can control. This is the number one self-love ingredient, to avoid control and to cultivate peacefulness. * Understand that others need to focus on themselves too. They choose you, and you choose them, as long as you both feel you are still on the same page. * Let go of entitlement. A partner owes you nothing. * Let go of control. Let go of attachment to outcomes. Look for situations that promote quality of life. Do not look for people. Do not attach anyone to your goals. Trust the process. * Trust and allow others and a partner to be free to choose what is best for them. Even if their choice excludes you. Make peace with rejection. Things do not have to go your way all the time. * Acknowledge the shortness of life. Live life well and fully. * When you love yourself, the people who match your love for self-will gravitate towards you. * If you understand that people are on loan, you might learn not to take advantage of a partner or anyone. That divorce and break up are clear evidence of this. Make peace with life cycles of things, and that everything has a use by date. That when the loan date is over, it is not personal that a partner might have to move on. * You are the only person you will always be with for life. Romance with another is a bonus. Your partner is a mirror. * Take responsibility for your life and your choices. Whether your relationship is healthy or unhealthy boils down to choices that you are making. Whether you believe your partner is toxic or a good person, he or she is one of your choices. Your choices are a demonstration of your level of self-love. * Pay attention to your wellbeing, and if you want to continue this relationship, or start a new relationship, try living with appreciation everyday. Notice what you have. * Try being in the moment alone, or when you are with your partner or others. Remember that each moment that passes is your life not stopping. Make peace with every moment, and learn tools to regulate yourself when you struggle. This might help make your life peaceful, and also your relationships.

Remember, to enjoy your relationship, you also need a happy partner. Your happy partner is also a result of a happy you. These are your choices.