Your responsibility on the second level

Memory
Aug 14, 2021
2 min read

People do what they do for their own reasons. Trying to work out why, and waiting for them to take responsibility can lead to more pain and waste of time.

While you might feel harmed, hurt, challenged or treated unfairly by others; parents, lovers , friends and others, remember, the wound is on you.

The person hurting is you.

You are the one who needs the hospital.

You are the one who needs a doctor.

You cannot lie there bleeding while waiting for forgiveness. While waiting for someone to own up.

You cannot let your wounds get infected, or let an infection spread, while waiting for people who hurt you to understand and apologise. People do not normally hurt you with the intention to cause you pain deep down. They are trying to soothe their own pain.

So many times you might try to explain yourself, to have people understand where you are coming from. The problem is that while it might be cathartic for short periods, people do not dwell on your trauma. They have their own.

If you are trying to share what was done to you, it helps to share it with tools. Or share it while looking for tools. Share your history of injuries with solutions, on your way to hospital. Or while lying on a hospital bed.

Tell your story as the subjective data for your diagnosis. Tell your story to your journal. Tell your story in a safe environment where you feel guided to help yourself. People can tell you that sometimes you need someone to listen, and that is OK. However, not everyone is available to listen whole heartedly, or to listen to help.

Yes, you feel hurt, but the harsh reality of this is; The world might not even remember your story tomorrow. Even for the few who might do, it is now your wellbeing you need to focus on. Your healing. Your journey. Pay attention to the changes you require.

Even when you go to hospital and the health care team are treating you, they put little focus on what might have happened to you. They focus on your injury, the wounds. The infection you might have, and the surgery or treatment you might require. The underlying issues and most importantly, they only want you to get better and go home.

Only tell your story for the sake of diagnosis. Accept help, resources, therapy , counselling to heal. Use these resources for yourself to share your story while sitting with your emotions.