Your focus

Instead of saying, "I feel so angry when this happens" - " I would like to be curious and find out why I feel angry about this." Reframe and focus on something that is more pleasant.

Rather than hate anyone, recognise what their behaviour is teaching you about yourself.

Instead of saying, "People like this make me feel like that", it might help to say, " Not being sure what they are going through, perhaps I would like to learn to act differently from this."

Where you focus on something that you label as horrible, you might expend that time focusing on something pleasant.

Instead of focusing on problems or things that are going wrong, you could learn balance. Start by noticing what you have, who you have and what is working.

Rather than keep focusing on or paying attention to something that does not serve you, focus on something beneficial to you.

The energy you expend trying to prove someone wrong, or to argue, could be well spent in meditation, or reading something more beneficial.

Where you might repeat something you did that is unkind as if it is an achievement, you might spend that time reflecting on how to improve your behaviour.

Instead of focusing on someone whose behaviour is causing you unhappiness, you can spend the same amount of energy investing in your interests.

Rather than invest in someone who is not interested in you, you could focus on people who want to spend time with you. Join communities where people have a common goal.

Instead of feeling that you will be on your own all your life because someone broke up with you, or they are not showing you love , recognise you can shift your focus to someone who is interested in you. You might look for the plenty of kindred spirits in the world and meet someone who will adore you.

Focus is what differentiates people who live their lives peacefully, and those who live a knee-jerk life. If you recognise that the amount of energy you spend on others or on unhelpful endeavours could be spent on the exact useful opposite of that, you will be a happier human.

If you recognise that the amount of time you might spend talking about someone else , or their behaviour and their life could be spent focusing on your life, you will live in your power.

If you recognise that you have one life, it is short and you have a choice on which side of the stick you focus on, you would not need to spend life pursuing anything and anyone that does not serve you in a beneficial way.

Recognise that , there are so many things you can focus on and do out there to have fun, So many places you can visit and be welcome, and enjoy yourself, So many people who can love you and co-create in amazing fulfilling ways! Change your focus to what brings you joy!