You need a life outside relationship

Why you need your own life and circles even when in romantic relationships One person cannot give you what a whole village needs to give you. There is so much you need in life. You need to talk to someone, to ask for different things from different people from different people. Your partner cannot meet all those needs for you. When we rely on one person to give you what a village needs to give you, it puts pressure on a relationship. Spend time with me. Soothe my anxiety. Be there when I am alone. Come back home to me early. Talk to me about my hair. Does my dress fit me? Are you going to wash the dishes next year? I do not like that person next door. What can I do about my boss? Do I need to shave? Why are you quiet? You need to keep me company. You always hang out with your friends. Hang out with me. You always touch your phone. Touch me. When your partner feels like the have the yearly shift of the whole community in one day, they might decide that is above their pay rate. If your partner has friends and you do not, or you are too attached, they might hang out with friends, which makes you feel excluded or forgotten. If you do not have an immediate circle or a life of your own, you might feel threatened by a partner's absence. You might then put pressure on your partner when they are focusing on their life. The pressure in turn might make your partner feel stifled and nagged. They might begin to spend less time with you, because it is not fun. Consequently, you feel more neglected and challenge them. Result...breakdown. Whatever is going on in your relationship, look into your side of things and invest in love on three levels. You need you. Love yourself. Create a self-care routine so that you lean into your aloneness and avoid over-reliance on a relationship to make you feel whole. Join a club to meet people and make your own friends. You can also join a group even online. When you have your own life, and begin to love yourself, you can see the relationship for what it is. You might also begin tp make decisions in your best interest.