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If you go back to dating without reflection and fall in love too fast, this can prevent detaching and monitoring red flags.

The idea of being in a relationship can override acting in your best interest. When someone has attached worthiness to something, when they get it, it might feel like they have won. They might focus on what they got, rather than how they got it or whether it is worth it.

Relationships like this might not last due to lack of reflection and objective evaluation. Unless you explores healing work, you might sabotage the relationship when your abandonment trauma is triggered.

The moment you anxiety is triggered and kicks in, you might jump to conclusions about a partner's behaviour and react.

Additionally, it also helps to recognise that the person you meet might either be love bombing you. If they go along with your fast tracking of the relationship, you might be trauma bonding. Also, be aware that they might notice rushing relationship as a red flag. This might lead to detachment when reality sets in or when they feel overwhelmed by the rush.

It is therefore important to:

Pace relationships.

Feel your way through the relationship.

Take your time and invest in other relationships and interests.

Do not attach anyone to your goals.

Spend time outside and observe behaviour.

Anything worthwhile takes time. Do not rush relationships.