You had a good thing going

Do not wait to regret

Do not wait until someone is about to leave, then realise what you are losing.

Some people have a partner who gives them love and attention. Yet, the person who is being loved can start to take the person loving them for granted.

People have limits. They want to love you, but they also want to be loved back. If you do not acknowledge someone who is in a relationship with you, then something at some point will give.

Some people will try their best, and do their best until they recognise that you are not going to reciprocate. When then they start to put themselves first, they will detach and start to focus on themselves.

At this point when someone is focusing on themselves , when they realise that you are not giving them attention, it might be too late for the relationship. This is when someone will leave when you did not think they were going to leave you.

Maybe you thought the grass was greener elsewhere. You probably thought that you could get away with not reciprocating when someone was trying their best. What you need to realise is that everyone has their limits.

When this person has had enough, and they realise they need to prioritise themselves, they might leave you.

When they are fed up of being abused or not being trusted they might leave you.

When they are tired of being taken for granted they might leave you.

Recognise that you had someone who loved you, someone who was there for you, when this person is about to leave you.

Perhaps you realise that you have been entitled in the relationship, because someone is about to exit the relationship.

Sometimes because you are used to them doing everything for you, and loving you without you doing much, you will start to feel the vacant space they have created by leaving.

Only then will you start to behave or to ask them to stay. Only at this point do you notice that you had someone who loved you.

Yet, you do not need to wait until someone is leaving to notice that you had a good thing going. You had someone who was prioritising you.

You do not have to wait until things fall apart, to then try and put them back together. Notice what you have when you have it.

When you work on yourself, you either let people go early on, or you prioritise someone who is prioritising you.

You notice when someone is making an effort, and you give same effort back. You respect them and their time and meet them all the way too.

Heal your inner child before or while in relationships. This helps you to make decisions in your best interest and minimise regrets. Heal your abandonment trauma and avoid ruining your relationships.

Rather than take someone for granted and then notice when they leave a vacancy, notice when you have found yourself a good thing.

Look after your relationship and treasure the person you chose.

You do not want to chase people who were there all the time when they decide to leave, because you did not notice what you had.