You do not have to open a "love me" academy for a partner to treat you well.

Your role as a man includes leading and protecting the connection. A woman can respond and connect.

Neither of you is responsible for opening a "how to love me academy" for a partner who is not acknowledging, loving and appreciating you.

It is not in your best interest to guide, persuade, lecture and force someone to, Call you and answer your calls, Text you or respond consistently, Initiate dates or accept dates with you, Respect you and treat you kindly; or To stop this, that or the other things you do not like.

Every adult knows what they are doing. Whether they do not know that it is helpful or will backfire is not your responsibility to give them one to one lessons about.

If they do not know how to co-create a healthy relationship, it is not your role to give them an education on the steps to being in love with you, or with anyone.

Somewhere along their physical trail they missed that lesson. You are not the best educational institution to provide such erudition.

As an adult you both have the freedom of choice, to either learn to do things differently, or learn to continue with dysfunctional behaviour.

If someone chooses to be in an adult relationship, that comes with an awareness of their responsibility.

The only Love Me Academy you need to open is one for you to learn to, Ask yourself what you are doing with someone who treats you badly;

To love yourself enough to choose healthy spaces for relationship; To teach yourself how to love and value yourself; To learn about your patterns and replace them with helpful habits. And to practice the dichotomy of control and learn to inspire, influence and collaborate.

Do not enroll your partner in your academy because that will backfire, as they detect your self-disconnection, the desperation and the forcing of outcomes. Do not full marks to someone who is failing.

Learn to take action that is in your best interest. Allow your person the freedom to choose what is best for them. What is best for them might not be you. Learn to be OK with that too.

If you leave the other person to work out whatever they want, one of two things will happen:

1. They will open a "love me academy " for themselves to learn to act in their own best interest and identify where their needs are met.

2. They will continue to self-sabotage. That is their choice.

If they decide to come back to you, take the longer route of starting a new relationship from scratch, if you want them back. Identify whether they have an ongoing self-education for better relationship outcomes through monitoring behaviour.

Or if not, when, leave them where they are, and continue your education for what you deserve.

Do not go back to a place that made you ill.

To someone who might not yet be aware of who they are. You cannot, with your best miracles, teach someone to recognise who they are, unless they decide that they want to.

It is not your job to teach someone to love you, and give them lectures on how special you are. If you are special, you will be chasing suitors away with a stick instead of convincing one person who is not volunteering.

Heal for your relationships.