You are with the right person every moment

Explore where you are at in your life and recognise that in the state you are in, you can only meet someone who matches that state.

Every day in your life, you are writing your story. Your story unfolds with your behaviour, attitude and mindset. You can only meet a mate who is going to help you continue your story. You can only keep someone who is a match for the unfolding parts of your story.

The person you meet for a relationship, at any given moment is fit for purpose for how your story unfolds.

This is why you need to heal.

To ensure that whoever you meet and write your story with, is helping you to write a story you feel good about.

The next person you meet matches your desires or your unfulfilled needs. The person you come across will give you an opportunity to participate in whatever you feel you need to perform in or participate in.

This is why reading red flags is key. This is why understanding healthy relationship patterns is helpful.

This is why pacing a relationship and observing behaviour helps you to recognise what this person is raising your awareness to, in your life.

This person will either demonstrate through their behaviour, the parts of you that you are not loving, the roles you are performing for love as well as your self-protective patterns that might prevent love from happening naturally.

So, rather than welcome every potential partner as if you have now met everybody in the world, and this is your final destination; take some time to step back and acknowledge what you are observing in their behaviour instead.

If you keep repeating patterns, or have been with someone who challenges you in an unhealthy way emotionally, it might be that you need to pause dating and heal.

Or it could be that you need to detach, date others and observe who is most likely to come towards you in a healthy way.

It could be that in your present relationship, you need to detach and avoid wanting to influence from an emotion of painful need than joyful desire.

Observe how you show up. Avoid inspiring others to believe that they are punishing you so that they can relax their behaviour and make you feel good. It is your job to identify what you are bringing or accepting into your existence and why that is happening.

Heal for your relationships.