Why your thoughts, actions and words matter.
- Memory
- Nov 11, 2021
- 2 min read
Contrary to common thinking, when we ask you to think positively, or to reframe your thoughts, it is not because we want you to be necessarily nice to anybody. Of course, in being self-compassionate you also avoid bleeding on others.
When we remind you to regulate your thoughts and emotions, it is simply to remind you to be nice or kind to yourself.
The words you speak every day shape and create the life you live tomorrow.
The actions you take today, can influence the outcomes of your future.
How you show up daily in your relationships, can make and break them.
Your thoughts influence your focus or demonstrate your focus. Whatever you are focusing your thoughts on, is what you are giving attention to.
How you feel influences your thoughts and decisions.
In each moment , you have an opportunity to reframe.
Any thoughts you think about others or yourself, start in you. They will affect you in the way they are thought.
If you think negative thoughts, you punish yourself. Even when you think negative thoughts about others, you are punishing yourself. These thoughts are yours, not thoughts of others.
When you have negative emotions about someone or something,they affect you. There emotions are yours. This is your experience, even though you might have generated them as a result of your focus on the words, actions or attitude of another person.
Your reactive attitude or behaviour towards others affect you. This is punishment to yourself, which begins as your thoughts, your emotions and using your mouth or body to speak or take action. Whatever the cause of your action, it is your problem.
Whatever justification you might have for your attitude, your words, your thoughts, feelings and behaviour towards others, just recognise that they might be self-protective strategies which lead to self-betrayal.
Everything you do starts in you, from your perception of a situation and the action you decide to take. This is why you need to pause before action and practice self-control.
Emotional self-control is a mixture of self-compassion, discipline, applying broader perspective and taking responsibility. Above all, self-control means you own your experience.
You recognise foremost your responsibility to be a parent to, and to protect the child in you. You understand that there is more to life than just your perspective. You choose your behaviour.
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