Why you might keep holding on

The reason why you struggle with being single, hold on to someone who is not healthy for you, or someone who does not want to have anything to do with you is because of a self-disconnect.

Even you are not connected with yourself, it feels natural to wish to connect to someone or something, even if that connection is not life giving. This is a survival strategy.

It is beneficial to strengthen your self-relationship by learning to connect with yourself.

If you are self-connected, you do not need to plug in to someone else.

Being already plugged in, you are your own source of joy.

You are likely to be content in or outside a relationship.

Steps to let go of unhealthy relationships

1. Detach from this person physically first. This is the most helpful stage to allow healing.

2. Start with healing your inner child. When you start deliberately investing in yourself, you take the focus off the other person.

3. Invest in self-care, in your interests, and other relationships with people who care about you. Self-care is helpful to set an example of how you want to be loved.

Having someone is great, but you need to foremost to learn to be ok being alone, when relationships do not work out.

To be ok alone following a break up.

There is no rush out there.

If you fear being alone, who is going to be ok being with you? Who is going to be responsible for being ok with someone you are not ok being with.

Do not fear endings. They are a chance to find other things and people who and what will allow your expansion.