Why romance might not be happening as you want it.

There are reasons why you might not be meeting the person who is healthy for you. Or why you might gravitate towards unhealthy dynamics. It is helpful to avoid basing love on romance. This is when you might not see anyone else as a love potential, except a romantic partner. Sometimes, due to this belief, you might believe that because you want romance, you are alone and believe you will be alone forever. You might not acknowledge all the people around you. Due to this mindset, as well as feeling of dejection, sometimes you might become unhappy to the point that, you subconsciously treat other people without positive regard. However, you hope that you will be nice to a romantic partner. In this state, you might also not be a very kind person unless someone is being romantic. You might not view all the love surrounding you, from friends, family, and public as "love." You might even disregard potential suitors who do not fit the description of who you want, or the person you are focusing on, who might not be healthy for you. You might be putting all your love eggs in the romance basket. Hear ye and heed this; You are part of a larger whole. If you love, you love, regardless of whether someone is sleeping with you, is romantic or not. What you give out you get back. Everyone you meet is giving you an opportunity to practice love. Take their offer. Be kind wherever possible. It is always possible, and only requires boundaries. If you are not a naturally loving or kind person, and hoping to be all nice to a lover, your practiced behaviour will catch up with you at some point. Your lack of kindness is also an indication of your inner states. So, you might want to start working from inside-out. The reason you require inner work is that you might not be able to maintain your patterns without a practice ground. If you get into a romantic relationship, you might not be in a position to maintain your one-dimensional loving for long. Besides, only being loving in romance means that you will put pressure on your relationship. One person can not meet the needs that require a village. If you are struggling to love outside romance, you might pile your frustrations on your romantic partner. It is too much for one person When you are not naturally loving, at some point you might no longer be able to pretend and the next victim of your unkindness will be your new sweetheart. That is why you might find yourself struggling with romance if you are not loving in general. Or you love selectively. When a new partner notices your true colours, they might not be able to stick around. Or you create a toxic dynamic of pressure and control. The idea is to practice doing things differently Get down to basics and practice loving. Start with yourself. When you love yourself, it is easy to hold everyone with pisitive regard. Learning self-compassion and self-love and acting with kindness. Make it a habit to practice feeling good. When loving and compassion become a way of life, it is easy for you to attract love. It is equally easy to find someone you can love authentically. Someone who will reflect your inner states. When you are a loving being, this does not mean you put yourself out in unsafe situations. You practice discernment, and can love people from any distance. In this state of loving, you might begin to let people go if they are not aligned with your purpose. This is because you love them enough to let them choose what is best for them. You can also love without controlling, because you love yourself enough to understand your limits. You love yourself enough to understand you are love and you love.