Who hurt you?

Why am I triggered right now?

Or why was I triggered that time? Revisit it!

One helpful lesson when healing is to pay attention to triggering situations.

Those situations with accompanying sensations, feelings, thoughts you have about people, situations or events!

Many times you might think,

"I do not like this person for no reason!"

" The way someone does something is annoying!"

" I do not like doing things that way!"

Yes, there is an excuse that we cannot like everyone. The argument thought is, that does not mean we need to hate or even dislike people. We can be indifferent. There is a difference..

So, if you have an aversion to something, to someone, consider that it might be a projection. Sometimes we simply try to break the mirror. What is it showing you! Lesson there!

The other perspective is to sit with the discomfort of the situation at the end of the day, and ask yourself,

"Why do I hate this person?"

"Why is this thing annoying"

"Why do I have a problem with doing things differently?"

Why today? Why now? Is it just this thing, feeling or situation? Am I hungry, stressed, tired, going through something else? Because, maybe if you had eaten, you would not be hating this person this moment!

Unaddressed issues equal unresolved emotions which require releasing. In that pre-triggered state, your emotional baseline which is normally at 0 calm, is already over (1) pre-distressed. When they you enter a situation, or notice non of your business, you bring your pre-story into it. Then the picture gets more distorted.

Consider your feelings as you ask the questions.

What thoughts are running through your head about this person, thing, or about doing things differently?

We have deep seated beliefs which can make us self-harm through the way we think and act.

What story of mine am I bringing into this encounter?

Where did you learn to approach life this way?

Are your thoughts true? Or is that the only way to look at life?

What other perspective is out there?

If you put yourself in the shoes of that person, how would you feel about your attitude?

What would a loving, compassionate parent suggest to you?

What can I do differently?

How can I manage this issue going forward?

How can I practice dichotomy of control and let go!

Practice self-care daily, to be aware of those pretriggers, and to improve your emotional baseline daily!

Learn to focus on the opposite of what you do not like when you have parented yourself.

See what is good in that person. Or what they have done that you can appreciate.

What can you learn from that annoying thing?

What other ways can you welcome to do things and improve your life?