Where do you see yourself in future?

Is this where you see yourself in a year, 2 years or 10 years from now? Whether it is a relationship, a job, a friendship or life situation, assessing where you are in relationship to where you want to be is essential. This can help you to recognise whether you are acting in your best interest, or betraying yourself. Perhaps you are having to prompt a partner to respond to you, to treat you well or to respect you. Trying hard to have your partner see you. Perhaps you are having to fight off the competition. The ex, the followers and the too close friend. Maybe you have a crush, and they have not yet reciprocated. Or your ex left ages ago and you are hoping they will come back. Maybe because you miss them you decided not to date anyone. You might wholeheartedly believe you are meant for each other. It is worth reminding yourself that your ex is living their life, with somebody else or by themselves, and not showing any signs of interest in you. Maybe you were hurt before. So many times, or once. And you believe that you "cannot do this again!" Yet, deep down you might yearn for a relationship. Or through that trauma, you might have now developed an aversion for romantic relationships. Perhaps you have friends who you believe are supoortive. Yet, they enable instead of guiding you. Or you have held on to circles where you do not grow. Maybe you are stuck in a job where you are not happy, where you are constantly complaining and not feeling appreciated. In all these situations, the question is, "is this where you see yourself a year or in the long term?" Remember, if your life is to have been well lived, you need to live well. Buy tranquility. How do you reckon you will be feeling frok now to a year or 20 years in that situation? Consider how much of your life you will have lived fully? Consider your relationship! Would you want to see yourself with this person in 2 years time? Being treated as you are being treated now? Being the only one making an effort to make things work as if you are working on your own project? Where you are struggling with being single, and it does not feel good, would there be consideration to work on your self relationship, and then see who is out there without attachment to outcomes? Is this a good place to be in the next few years where you feel like you have no control of what happens in your life? Perhaps you are getting depressed because you feel you are missing out on romance. Would it help instead, to focus on investing in the gestation period for now. Invest in your interests and other relationships. Romance will come. Would you want to see yourself in this same challenging relationship in 5 years time. Being unhappy, fighting instead of laughing and playing together,

resentful instead of being joyful,

hateful instead of being loving,

dragging someone along instead of being loved and loving without pressure,

and regretting instead of celebrating? Would you want to see yourself 20 years from now, having spent 8 to 12 hours a day in an environment that drains your mental energy? Where you might rationalise that you need the money, consider that wellbeing follows best interest decisions. At the end of 15 years, would you want to look back and recognise that you had friends who were there only when you had problems. And they kept enabling you so that you would continue to go back to them to solve your problems? There are people out there who need to be needed. If you recognise that where you are is not enhancing the quality of your life, and you want to be in a blissfully different place in a year, 2 years, 5, 10 to 20 years from now, today is an opportunity to change your outcomes.

If you notice that you are in a situation which is not serving you, reflect on whether you really want to be here in the next year or more?

How is that likely to benefit you? If you know it does not benefit you, then you are not likely to want to be in this situation in a year's time ! Remember that for your life to be well lived, you need to live well. Buy tranquility. How can you live fully? Change something! As long as you live, you still have an opportunity to make a difference in your life. Plant seeds of peace in your life. Look into the way you think, feel and behave. Look around you and decide. That you want to thrive not survive. Ask yourself this; How do I feel here? "What do I think about being here? Where do I want to be? How do I find a way there? Who can walk with me to get there for now? In future? What do I need to start? When can I start?" When where you are does not feel like home, search within. Within you are answers. Within, you will find a way. Within you is home. Everything begins at home. Heal for your relationships..