When you want to reconnect with an ex

Remember, your relationship ended. If you decide to start afresh, initiate no contact first, then heal for a period. Create timelines.

If your ex comes back and they want to reconnect, you will have looked at what happened and how you need to move forward.

Know what you want.

Know what happened and what you need to work on. Learn from the problems in the relationship. Heal the break up emotions.

Understand what has changed in you and consider if that applies to your ex.

If you want to reconnect, start a new relationship. The old relationship is gone.

Ask questions before committing to action. Are you still on the same page? Find out.

Communicate before you commit.

Start with dates from scratch, like new people.

Monitor behaviour. If any red flags throw them back in the dating pool.

Explore if there are genuine changes before sex. When you do not set up a new structure, it would look as if there are no boundaries. Basically, what then happens is that you might have expectations when you might not on the same page.

Remember that an intention to get back together does not mean you are good for each other. It does not signal being on the same page.

So, approach your relationships professionally and detach, assess, plan, implement and evaluate.