When to initiate calls.

If you are anxious about calling someone you are in a relationship with, then there is a problem in your relationship.

If your relationship is fit and healthy, you do not need to question yourself or try to work out when to call your partner.

If you cannot decide whether to call or not, it might be due to the silence or inconsistency of a partner.

Alternatively, it could be your anxiety.

If you are concerned about how your partner might respond, then again, that is a validation seeking response.

Reaching out to a partner needs to be a simple two way traffic, which feels good, has no pressure and does not have an outcomes attached to it. Even when they do not respond in the moment, you know they will call back or text.

If one or all apply, you benefit from not reaching out in that moment. Because,you will be reaching out from a place of neediness and validation. You are not likely to express yourself in a way that helps you or the relationship.

In this moment, the best approach is to parent yourself and give yourself the validation you might hope to get from a partner. Additionally, reach out to someone in your immediate circle.

Give this person space to choose their action. They will call when they are ready. Alternatively, you could allow 3 to 4 days, then reach out and just says, " Hey, I enjoyed our time together last time, and would love to catch up again. If that is something you would consider. No pressure!"

Additionally, ensure you do make sure your time together is enjoyable.

If that is not the case, that is an indication of a relationship way your person is not reaching out.

People want to be around people who make them feel good. So, inspire your relationship, by inspiring your partner.

If they do not respond, let go. Sometimes, the relationship has completed its life cycle.

Choose your battles through the dichotomy of control and focus on what is within your control.