When they pull away after sex

It is hard to move forward if you slept with someone and you have caught feelings. Perhaps they are pulling away, and you regret the sex. However, there are ways you can mitigate the situation: 1. Learn dichotomy of control. Practice acceptance. You cannot undo what has been done. Learn to parent yourself and recognise things that are within your control and those outside your control. You might have rushed to have sex, but you cannot undo that. 2. When you make the decision to slewp with someone, learn to enjoy the sex, and treat it as an act of physical enjoyment. A moment of connecting with another human being. 3. Recognise that people are on loan. Even when we have slept with someone or have children together, they might still leave. 4. It might be helpful to keep dating others. In the initial stages of dating, do not put your eggs in one basket. However, avoid sex and enjoy dates and spending time with people. 5. If you feel that someone is distant, adopt the innocent until proven guilty. You could reach out with vulnerability. "I enjoyed spending time with you, and I would love to hang out with you again. No pressure!" Do not attach to outcomes. Welcome the response or silence. 6. Whether you did not reach out, or they do not respond, you can grieve the loss and let go. 7. If you are anxious about rejection, learn to heal your inner child and your anxiety. Sit with your emotions, name your sensations, Images, feelings and thoughts. Parent yourself just like what a mother would do for a child in your situation. SIFTSEM 8. Recognise that you cannot mess up the right thing. If they wanted you in their life, it would not make a difference that you had sex early on. 9. Learn from what happened and learn to enjoy dates without sex ,during early dating stages. There is no rush. The SIFTSEM Journal: The self-healer`s diary to develop emotional awareness and self-management in 90 days. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B09CRNQDML/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_0TWP7XQP3QE3QJPSJBQ9