When someone you love is no longer happy around you

Love is noticing when someone we love is not happy around us. When you love someone their happiness matters to you as well.

Because when they are happy around you, it enhances your feelings of joy.

When your happiness matters to you, you can notice when you are around happy people. You can sense the mood of your environment.

If your person or partner is no longer happy around you you will not hold on to them

Because you are aware of how unhappy that makes you too.

If they are spending less time around you,

Or they are not contacting you as often as they used to.

If they are cheating on you or seeing other people behind your back,

If they are aggressive, passive aggressive or not responsive,

That means they might not happy around you, whether for their own reasons or yours.

Because, no matter what someone is going through, they will find pleasure in being around people they care about. That is what support systems are for.

If someone is happy around you, they would want to stay around you.

They would be happier around you.

Meaning they would be kinder to you.

Create fun moments with you.

Respect you.

Be open to you about their challenges, and remain open so you do not feel left out.

They make an attempt to resolve their challenges where possible, so that they do not spill into the relationship.

They find a way to spend time with and prioritise you.

Because they enjoy being with you. It is life giving for them to be around you.

When you notice that someone is not happy happy around you and is making excuses to avoid you, set them free. Bless them with love and let them move on. You do not want to end responsible for interfering with someone's joy and life outcomes.

Even when you ask and they make excuses, you need to focus on behaviour and action, not words alone. You know what feels good to you. And you know when people are not happy around you. Do not ignore it.

You might have walked with them for a while, but perhaps they now have clarity about what they want. Perhaps what they want is not you. If you love someone, let them make their way to their own happiness. With or without you.