When someone wants you back after their betrayal relationship has failed.

There is a difference between someone who betrays a partner and stops when they are caught, and someone who continues the relationship.

If someone has to realise that they want to try with you after their shenanigans have failed , it is a challenge to appreciate what happens when they make it work again, or they find something else.

The problem is that the person they betrayed, you, might not be a priority. You might be viewed as a back up plan.

This comes from a lack of respect if you do not create boundaries.

They might just settle with you because they do not want to be alone, or have no other options available.

Hold on to your worthiness. If you behave as if your worthiness depends on being with them, that can lead to being taken for granted.

However, the decision is up to you. Relationships can work post betrayal, although in this regard, there are challenges to navigate.

If you decide to go back, start from scratch.

Continue with the divorce or break up.

You can marry again, or just cohabit if new relationship works.

Do not have sex, or move back in or behave as if you are a couple initially.

You are not a couple anymore.

You need to start a new relationship to become a new old couple..

The relationship you will start will be a new one.

You can start dating, and it might help to do it on your terms.

Observe behaviour, and if there are red flags get out.

The important part is that hopefully you are healing.

Healing prevents looking for love in the wrong placed.

It helps you to strengthen your self-relationship.

When you have home within yourself, it prevents you from going back yo what broke you.

If you are not healing, it is not easy to set a standard for how you can be treated by others.

Knowing that you struggle with a sense of self, the other person might take advantage, and keep repeating their behaviour. This is because they believe there are no consequences.

Heal your self-love and boundaries.

This toolkit has a reconnection programme to walk you through the process.

All the best to anyone out there going back to a partner who betrayed them.

May you be brave, boundaried and no longer put up with being second best.

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