When a lover says, "Let us go with the flow!"

Going with the flow requires a destination first. Where are you going with the flow?

If that is not clarified, it is best to enquire!

When you get on dating sites and meet someone, make sure you are on the same page.

Know what you want and stick to it.

Ask people you are talking to what they are looking for.

Before you progress the relationship check in again to see if things are still the same.

Before you start sleeping together, find out if you are on the same page.

When you start sleeping together, do not freak out or act entitled.

If you feel that you are not on the same page, let go at any point.

Do not use sex as an excuse to stay. Sexual activity or not, you can move on. Sleeping with a person does not give anyone the incentive to stay if there are compatibility issues.

Monitor how you are showing up also. If you are self-sabotaging, you cannot expect the other person to stay with you. They might not be sure about you because of behaviour, and therefore decide to explore "going with the flow!" This is to find out whether you will start showing up differently.

In other words "let us go with the flow" signals confusion. It might be that they recognise you are not on the same page and want to explore physical relationship with you, or they changed their mind about you. Either way, it helps to give people space to gain clarity. Leave and let them decide in your absence.

If you stay , you might start to feel uncertain. You might start to doubt yourself. This is when you might start to over function and try to make things happen. This is turn can push your lover away even further.