What kind of relationship will you find?

Consider the place from which you are looking for a relationship determines the outcomes relationship you get into. When what you are living is different from what you want to achieve, your attention on your present life keeps your life outcomes from changing. If you are living from a place of scarcity, and you want abundance, then you cannot achieve abundance from a mindset of scarcity. What you get into your life is based on what you are giving attention to. You need to see things for what you want them to be. Consider the feeling that you are reaching for in a relationship. What do you want to feel or achieve? Avoid defining the specific actions that you think are needed to get what you want. Consider what you want to achieve when you release a toxic relationship, or when you get into a future relationship. Use feeling words. In a relationship, you probably want love, freedom, connection, peacefulness, serenity, fun, sharing. You want love that sweeps you off your feet, that makes your head float. Yet, by looking for love in a person, you are looking for love in the wrong places. If you want to leave your unhealthy relationship, or you are single, and you want this feeling of love; do not replace your partner with a person, or look for a person to make you sweeps you off your feet so that you feel this love. Yes, it is perfectly OK to look for a relationship, but you cannot find unconditional love in another person. You start with finding a connection within yourself. When you feel connected, this person will come. It is important and effective to start with connecting with the self first, because your self-connection will be mirrored by whoever comes into your life. You are in a place to recognise how connected you are with yourself, through your relationship outcomes. Find the feeling of love, feeling of wellbeing and ease, but it does not come from another person. It is nice to meet someone who does not constantly trigger you in a way that results in losing your connection. You do not need to have a person to maintain a connection with yourself. However, you cannot give conditions to people to behave in a way that can help you stay loved and connected with yourself. It is the opposite that works. In your self-connection, there is love. In that sustained connection , you will achieve your desire for relationship. Heal your childhood wounds. Use tools to practice connecting with yourself, so that you are not desperately seeking a connection with someone else. Connect with your Source. When you are sustaining your connection, things you want will come. However, you need to learn to avoid attaching conditions to your self-connection. It is not dependent on how others behave or act. Anything external needs not impact your self-connection. In fact, if you are self-connected you remain in a state of receiving, and allowing, you do not grapple with people coming into your life. Anyone who comes into your life will stay if they are the right person for you, and leave on their own, if they are not the right person for you. Either way, that will not have a bearing on your self-relationship.