What is your partner looking for in you.

There are behaviours and mindsets that promote healthy relationship. Here are some of them

1. You need to Love Yourself so that you are not completely and emotionally dependent on a partner. Self-love helps you to make decisions in your best interest in a relationship. Intend that prevents you from being overly dependent on a relationship or a partner to fulfill your needs. There is a lot you can do for yourself when you are single. That is also the case when you are in a relationship. You can address and manage many aspects of your life, in fact all aspects of your life. In relationships there is interdependence where you can then then give and receive love more than just with yourself, but with a partner too.

2. Your partner require someone with emotional maturity. This might tie in with self love. When you you are emotionally mature you have a sense of self as well as an ability to regulate yourself. Anchored in your values and with boundaries you do not need to react, but to express yourself and your needs as well as know what appropriate action to take. Lack of emotional maturity can lead to unnecessary and inappropriate reactions which can damage the relationship or create toxicity.

3. You need your own life. People struggle in relationships because they are hoping that a partner can meet their every need. They feel that their partner needs to do everything with them my which is not healthy. If you have your own life and interests and investments you will not put pressure on a partner or a relationship.

4. Have an immediate circle outside your romantic relationship. The people in your immediate circle will support you in other ways to prevent over-reliance on a partner to meet your every need. You need a village,. and one person who is also trying to invest in himself or herself cannot meet each and every one of your needs.

5. Create space. The above points help you to create space in your relationship. When you have your own life and treasure your self-care routine, you need me-time. You need time away from romance sometimes. You need to invest in other relationships. You need to help and support others. As you love on three levels, you give your partner space to focus on himself or herself.

6. Empathy Empathy in relationships is beyond just understanding the emotional currents of the relationship.. In fact if you are able to maintain the above practices, you can easily become empathetic. Empathy ties in with the dichotomy of control. With your self-awareness and freedom of choice, you understand the importance of your partner's freedom of choice too. If you know yourself, manage yourself and value your self-relationship it is equally easy for you to trust and allow a partner to do what is best for the relationship. Empathy says I care and is the opposite of entitled.

7. Boundaries When you have a sense of self and self-love you can easily adhere to your values and act with unconditional positive self-regard. Boundaries need to be on the inside rather than announcing them all the time.

8. Vulnerability Healthy relationships are founded on among other components, vulnerability. Being able to openly express how you feel allows your partner to hold space if they are the right person for you. Vulnerability is the opposite of over sharing and undersharing.

Healthy relationships require healthy behaviours and attitudes to sustain them. Make sure you are showing in a way that you would like another person to show up for you, which promotes a quality life.