What is important for your healing?

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What you need for your healing

There is a lot of information available about healing out there and there are many modalities and approaches.

It is also important to note that in order to achieve best outcomes in a situation, you might need a step by step coherent approach to heal your trauma.

It is equally helpful to recognise that as human beings, we are multidimensional and our needs need to be addressed in all four dimensions of existence.

Just like in the healthcare model, we are bio-pysycho-social-spiritual beings. It is therefore important that your healing addresses all aspects of the four dimensions without fail. When one of these dimensions is not addressed, you can end up with an existential crisis.

Existential wellbeing is a beneficial concept to explore when you are healing trauma. Or in life in general, as it addresses human beings in their totality. You can approach it in any way, with tools that you choose.

Physical

You need to address your physical environment, including the body as an environment for your existence.

Look after your body.

Move your body

Monitor what you get in your body and what you are allowing to stay in your body.

Your physical sensations are part of your body.

Sex is part of what you allow physically.

If you are physically unwell, that affects your relationships and your psychological wellbeing.

Psychological

Your psychological dimension is extremely key to your whole trauma healing, but is not the only key to your well-being.

Heal your inner child to connect with the essence of who you are.

Invest in creativity and vitality.

Be ok with feeling your feelings and managing them, the same way you might decide to deal with your physical well-being.

Learn tools to improve your emotional baseline. Self-care with SIFTSEM.

Learn to regulate emotions.

Reframe your thoughts.

Reflect on your choices and behaviours and their impact your existence.

Your social and physical experiences can be very much influenced by your psychological wellbeing.

Social

Being a social human, you are born in community and thrive in community. In this community, we encourage you to learn to love on three levels. You. Immediate circle and greater good. Healthy social circles are based on healthy self boundaries which come from healthy psychological boundaries.

Invest in your interests.

Choose your circles carefully.

But above all, choose how you show up consciously.

If you are in unhealthy workplaces, relationships, or have an inability to relate with others in a healthy way, that can affect your psychological wellbeing and also lead to coping behaviours which affect your body.

Spiritual

You are more than your body, Thoughts, emotions and your need for connection. You are, above all spiritual. Your breath is evidence of that which you cannot touch, taste, smell or see. Without your breathe, you cannot be here.

The life you live therefore calls for your spiritual attention.

Explore your purpose.

Help others

Develop a self-care practice.

Live with gratitude and appreciation.

Monitor your thoughts and reframe.

Let go and trust the process.

Whether you are religious or not, there is something greater than you. There is a lot you cannot control.

Even your breath leaves your body at some point.

Learn to let go, trust and allow.

Your healing in a nutshell is about love on three levels. It takes you through the passes and paths of self-parenting, as you learn to manage yourself, and to trust the process. It takes you on travels with your immediate circle, as you co-create and encounter triggers and learn to manage them. As you practice your healing during the triggers, learning to act before the triggers to minimise impact, and managing yourself after the triggers. As you trust and allow others to do what is best for them, and let go of control.

Finally, healing takes you on a journey of selflessness, a journey of giving without expectation. Moments of letting go of your own suffering, and acknowledging human commonalities. Being there for others and letting them feel seen, heard and acknowledged.

As you can see, healing does not take place on a couch with a therapist, in an office with a counsellor, or in a group session. In these settings you may have opportunity for co-regulation, or what we call love on the second level. However, the evidence of healing takes place to a point with a co-parent, but moreso, on the field where triggers and the unwanted happens, where you learn to apply tools as you practice and manage life.

The point is to learn and lay out tools which help you to take charge of your life and achieve an optimum level of peacefulness.

Love on three levels is on Amazon . It also contains the SIFTSEM tool.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08W7SQ5HY/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_P06G252QHSAZ7FYB8Q39

To be continued tomorrow...