What happens when you do nothing?

Question to ask yourself: What happens if you do nothing about a situation? Not everything you encounter deserves your contribution, response or input. You are triggered, so does that mean someone did something to you? Does that mean that you need to fix the situation? Do you have to do something about it? To say something? To adopt an obvious stance about it? What happens when you do , say nothing?

If you do not add your comment to that triggering post, or to that person who is saying something you do not like to your friend?

What happens if you do not take any action to make your ex feel the pain that you are feeling?

When you also do nothing, it gives the other person an opportunity to reflect too. Or you might notice what they intend to do if you are in a relationship. Doing nothing is just not doing something about it now! Or about it at any point! It means recognising that you are triggered, and the impact is based on the story you are bringing to the situation. Most of the stories we bring to the situation are from the past. That means, when you objectively evaluate that story, you can seperate past from present. Your story from the current issue. You can seperate what is yours and what is theirs. Then decide whether this is worth having a conversation about. Whether you need to comment on that post. Whether you need to speak your mind to that person. Because most of what you really want to say comes from a need to be understood. And when you take the time to understand yourself, you might find that you do not need to take this issue any further! Or that you need to make requests as you express your needs. Or to say goodbye!