Wasting time trying to figure out someone who left

While you can learn from what was happening in the relationship, avoid wasting time wondering about a wrong match or why they left. In life you will meet people who have great potential to be your partner. Just like buses, you will have options to choose from at different times of the day. It is important to avoid attaching a person to your goals because of potential. Potential looks like, She is just too beautiful to let go of. She was my soul mate. She can be the wife I need. He has money. He is good looking. We have the greatest conversations. They are good in bed. My children like them. When it is good, it is really good. When you meet someone and they claim to be busy, or they are incongruent, believe them. They came into the relationship initially and enthusiastically, and have now decided that they are busy. Even busy people prioritise people they want to be with. They came into the relationship, hopefully with an awareness of what it means to be in a relationship. If their behaviour or words are not demonstrating this, they have changed their mind. People are allowed to change their minds. If someone is not voluntarily making you a priority, they have a reason. They might have noticed something they do not like. They do not feel good in the relationship. They might not be into the relationship. It is not personal. People are not into everyone, and that is OK. Just do not take this as a reflection of your worthiness. Avoid " talking" or repeatedly reminding them you exist when communication dwindles. They know. When you call them out constantly, it is a turn off for them, because they have already switched off. Your insistence gives this person confirmation that they need to let go. It might feel like pressure to them, to be taught relationship or choice. It is not as if you know what is best for them better than they do. They feel their way through life and situations. Only they have the right to choose what works or does not work in their life. Discernment is key in relationships. As an adult, learn self-leadership. Notice when someone is reciprocating and if not, let go. If they have stopped contact, cut the cord. Block , delete and move on.

Rather than waste your time trying to figure them out or even making excuses for them, figure out why you are in this position. Work out where you need to be. Go there! Adopt the abundance mindset. This is only one person who is not on the same page with you. There will be others. Weed off wrong matches until you meet the right person. You do need to wait around wondering about this wrong match. It might be worth working on yourself. Learn to love yourself and to meet your own needs. Heal your inner child to connect with yourself. Use SIFTSEM to make decisions in your best interest. Learn to let go and focus on your life.