Value yourself enough to want the best for yourself.

Many people like nice things,

the beauty of a well-looked after garden,

a clean and tidy home ,

a clean and lovely car

a nice office with a view,

lovely shoes and suits and dresses,

a healthy diet,

a consistent gym routine.

Yet, when it comes to our existential wellbeing, sometimes we can leave out self-care in dimensions that can impact our lives adversely.

You have some skills and talents or something you are good at. It might be helpful to apply that same concept to your neglected areas of existence.

It therefore helps to learn to look after yourself and meet your needs, the same way you look after the things you love most in your life, using the same concepts you apply in doing what you do well.

Apply the same discipline that you practice in your strong areas to improve your neglected areas.

Apply the same concepts that you employ when you look after your house, or when you buy a new car to managing your thoughts, emotions and behaviour.

"Clean" up your mind regularly, and monitor when there are "weeds" you need to take care of daily, as you do in the home and garden.

If you have great eating habits and a strict exercise regime, apply the same concept to your psychological existence. Practice self-management by introducing daily practice for emotional regulation and cognitive restructuring. Lose the psychological weight by practising daily.

If you love lovely shoes, you can apply the same concept to your spiritual existence and introducing practices that "take you higher" in the heels of a raised vibration. Polish your practice to make "your soul shine"!

As you work on looking good in appearance, apply the same concept to your character.

You work hard and save money. Pay attention to what you put the body through and whether the money is for the body or for the bank? Or is it for future enjoyment that might come too little too late.

The same way you look after your car like your favourite child, is the same way you can look after your social environment and keep it free from toxicity.

Just as you insure your car, or keep it where it might not get bumps and scratches, create boundaries in your social circles.

When someone damages any of your possessions, you either take them to court or get extremely upset. Yet, that same concept helps more when you take action when someone treat you badly in a toxic relationship.

You would probably be gutted if someone tears your favourite dress, or drops your favourite mug. What is more important is the way you treat the body that wears the dress or drinks from the mug. What are you drinking from one-sided friendships?

Rather than focus more on the things that the body uses, pay attention to what is happening in the body itself.

If you like an office with a view, also look after your body. Eat healthy, and where possible move your body to develop a view.

Many of the things we like and look after, need not be looked after more than the body and person who bought, acquired or use them.

It is more beneficial to be good to yourself before being more of a good person to others. Or to prioritise and be better person to others, more than you are good to yourself. Without looking after yourself well, there will be no you, or there will be no authentic you.

To be there for others or to love them fully, and to take care of those things requires that you take care of yourself more than you take care of your possessions.

You probably do well at work or are striving to be the top earner or whatever you call it you want to be. Yet, you can apply the same concept to yourself , to become the best version of you by healing your emotions.

Pay attention to what matters. You have a lot of skills and strengths at your disposal. Use these tools , your inner resources, skills and strengths that you apply in any area you are good at, to address your

Social

Spiritual

Physical

Pyschological existence.

Everything else is secondary.