Trust yourself

When we say complaining about being betrayed brings about more of it, here is what we mean. This is about mindset and focus. If you keep focusing on something, you are likely to constantly chase for evidence of it. This is because you believe it to be true. Any evidence to the contrary is not likely to hold water for you. Consequently, that might also, in this case, mean that you could be struggling with trust issues. That is why you might not be able to see or notice anything different from what you believe. When you have trust issues, they seek from childhood where we lost trust in the adults who betrayed us and taught us to betray ourselves. We lost the ability to tune in to our guidance system when our emotions were invalidated, and we had to deny them in favour of survival strategies. Now that you are older, you and I benefit from doing the work to develop self-love. This means, develop a relationship with yourself. Develop trust and confidence in yourself. Start with beginning to tune in to your inner wisdom, through your emotions, and to create solutions in your best interest. Commit to yourself and do something that improves your credibility with yourself. This way too, you learn to trust others. How? Because, in any situation, you trust and allow others to what is best. What is best is their best, and you note it through how they come through for the relationship you have with them. Meanwhile you can also evaluate through instinct while in detachment. Feel through every situation. Allow others to choose what is their best. Even if their best is not to choose you. You do this by observing their behaviour and their contribution and character. If you trust yourself, you will recognise that only you can be 100% there for you. Others have the freedom of choice to change their minds about you. They can take themselves away from you. They can support you or be there for you, if they choose to. They can leave if they wish. This is due to the body boundary. We are separated by our bodies, and consequently, our thoughts, feelings and actions. Nobody, owes you anything. Once you understand this, everyone is off the hook. In each situation, you will feel, assess, decide and pick your battles. When you also rely on yourself and trust yourself, you value your freedom of choice. You respect others' freedom of choice too. And you do not push against anyone or anything.