Trust the process

If you wish to grow a plant, you might test and prepare the soil first. You make sure it is healthy and fertile for the crop.

When you plant the seed, you plant it trusting the process. You detach from outcomes. You will not check every two days to see if it is coming out. You have no control over whether it germinate or not. You have no control over the weather that might disrupt or help the development of your plants.

When it is ready to come out, and it does not , you might feel disappointed. However, you do not stop planting crops because they did not germinate. You might plant another crop or replant where they did not germinate.

Before you get into a relationship with someone, you need to prepare a healthy patch for it. You can only create healthy relationship patch by working on yourself.

Build your self-relationship first and then plant your relationship seed. When you are looking for relationship, do not keep checking the germinating seed. It has its timeline. When then you meet someone, keep trusting the process. You cannot force seeds to germinate. They might not have the favourable condition to come out just like some relationships that do not materialise.

Fertilise your relationship land with appreciation, communication, with respect and above all space and focusing on yourself.

Trust that it will rain, or use your irrigation equipment. Focus on what is in your control.

Despite the conditions of the land, not every plant might thrive. Some might die before they mature, just like some of your dates and short lived relationships.

As long as you are consistent with monitoring weeds and the conditions in your relationship, you can save it and keep it healthy. As long as you remember that there is only so much within your control, you can be in the moment and you can enjoy your relationships.

The path of least resistance in your relationship is to let go and surrender. To have fun while you trust the process and let things work out as they will. Just have your boundaries in place and do not be swayed by a partner's shiny objects.