Transforming your life!

It has been a long time since the wound you are trying to heal was inflicted. The wound has been open, getting infected and not been tended to for too long. Just like physical trauma, your emotional wounds can cause long term damage if unhealed. For this reason, you are likely to need some time to heal. You will heal gradually over a period of years, as you tend to your wound regularly. For an infection, you might take antibiotics once to four times a day. So it is that with emotional wounds, you need to get into a a daily healing routine. You might need check ups in therapy, but what you do at home on a daily basis can help to prevent worsening your condition or interfering with recovery. As you might avoid water on an unhealed surgical or any wound; you might avoid walking on a leg in plaster, so it is that you need to avoid situations that can worsen or affect your psychological wounds. You need to pay attention to your boundaries. This act of self-care if not addressed, can lead to decisions and behaviours that can impact your psychological wounds. Until your physical wounds have stabilised or healed, you need to adhere to a routine that helps you to maintain optimum health. This is no different from your psychological existence. Monitor your thoughts Regulate your emotions. Explore your social environment. Monitor your circles. The most important person in your social circles is normally a romantic partner and children and parents. Evaluate your boundaries. Detach from difficult situations, until you have tools to manage them. Learn to give yourself space to process what is happening around you. Learn to tune in to your emotions and use then as guidance to create solutions in your best interest Learn to express your needs in healthy ways. Protect yourself from inappropriate reactions by recognising that not every situation is a life and death situation. Use tools to parent and soothe yourself and to create solutions to strengthen your self leadership skills. Journal reframes and learn to let go of attachment to outcomes.. In the process of healing, start with setting a weekly intention to change something in your life Then day by day, work on a pattern you wish to change and evaluate yourself. Additionally, incorporate the self-care routine in your daily life. This, not only helps you to practice discipline, but also to improve your emotional baseline and self-relationship. Seek accountability, because you have been behaving this way for years. It is not likely that you will suddenly change behaviour without support. You were not able to do it alone. Things are not about to magically change. Solicit and accept feedback. Change intentionally through that feedback.