Tools to prevent relationship breakdown

Prevention in your relationship, is better than cure.

Before you hit relationship rock bottom, learn tools to prevent further deterioration. Rather than make matters worse focusing on the negative behaviour of your partner, identify ways you can improve the situation. This is only possible by working on yourself.

Learn to manage yourself and to identify the weaknesses in your relationship. This is called social organisational awareness. Yes, your relationship is an organisation.

Foremost learn to understand your present situation. What is going on and why?

What behaviours are contributing to this problem?

Self-compassion Learn to hold space. Hold space for you and your partner. That is a strength. Be vulnerable. Do not be hard.

Everything you do in relationships requires practice. Take the time to introduce routines and healthy practices in your relationship when things are going well.

In moments of happiness and appreciation, introduce self-development in your relationship.

Invite your partner to learn self-parenting while you support them with co-parenting.

Support each other to self-parent or regulate emotions or SIFTSEM. Or you can ask your partner to support you "to practice something you learned recently!"

Sit with your partner and ask them what they are feeling. Ask then for a distress score.

Practice deep breathing together.

Sensations, images, feelings and thoughts.

Ask them 5 Whys of what they are feeling and thinking.

Brainstorm and Identify an unmet need linked to the root cause.

Create solutions and immediately soothe and parent individually and together. Hold hands, hug, look in each other's eyes and repeat affirmations.

Create solutions short and long term.

Do a cathartic and assess trigger score.

When you introduce tools in your relationship, you can help each other to manage yourselves and minimise emotional dependence.

Excerpt from SIFTSEM toolkit.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08SJLYZWV/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_A6YCKA04P8JFHG6KF5N3