Three role play qualities that sabotage relationship

1. Low maintenance woman also known as the protector archetype.

She learnt that she has to be independent and take care of herself. This is synonymous with high achieving women.

She is too independent and believes that she does not need a man and leans out instead of leaning back.

The man runs out of work in the relationship because she does not need him.

2. When you give to get.

This is also called the pleaser archetype or police role.

In the hope of getting or receiving love, she subconsciously keeps giving and giving to the man.

She buys him gifts

She says yes to everything even what she does not want

She initiates contact

She caretakes and makes things easy for him

She eventually becomes resentful when he stops responding to her giving.

She is not loving herself and in her co-dependence he eventually starts to match her energy loving her as little as she loves herself. A man can only love you as much as you love yourself.

3. The shape-shifter

This is also called a performer archetype.

She can become anything he wants her to be and if she shows up properly he will love her.

The problem is that she is not showing her authentic self. She cannot maintain this facade and will eventually become tired and he will notice.

In addition, this can cause him to walk on eggshells and for her to suppress her needs.

She;

Suppresses her emotions

Makes out all is well

Makes an effort to make everything look hunky dory

Avoids confrontation to make peace.

What is common with these roles is the woman does not communicate her needs.

The pleaser and shape-shifter come from a place of control because they are trying to manipulate the situation in their favour, to be seen as the one or the best.

The solution is to work on herself and become the true version of herself, to know her needs and communicate them in a way that makes him feel safe. Otherwise he ends up walking on eggshells too and eventually walks away.

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