These married men

If you are dating a married man or considering dating one, reflect on the following; Through no fault of our own we attach to people who help us to trigger our childhood feelings. We then try to fix our parents in these relationships. Questions to ask yourself, Why am I here? Are you emotionally available if you are attaching to people who are emotionally unavailable?

Which unavailable parent of yours does he best resemble? Are you acting in my best interest if you are hooking up with someone who goes back home to someone else? What are the limitations of being with someone who is in a relationship? Why are you accepting a situation with such limitations? Are respecting yourself and acting in your best interest? Why would you put yourself in a competition? And with another woman?

How would you feel in the shoes of the wife? Do you not believe in yourself enough that you do not think you can meet someone who is unattached? Why would he leave his wife or girlfriend? Even if he claims to have reasons to leave, what incentive is there for him to leave his wife unless he meets someone with boundaries and who challenges him? What are you giving him that he cannot get on any street in any city? If he wanted to leave her, why has he not done so before getting into a situation with another woman first? Even if he leaves her, might he not do the same thing he did to his present partner to you?

Consider your mindset too. Lack mindset leads you to believe that there are no enough men, we need to share men and that all men cheat! Betrayal is a teenager childhood survival strategy!

His conflict resolution skills are in question if he has step outside as a way to address his problems. If he has issues, he needs to be man enough to sort them out with his partner and leave without involving a third party. This way, you know he is the "man!"

Otherwise recognise that you might be trauma mates, just helping each other to relive your childhood all over. People love and respect people who love and respect themselves!