The self-betrayal for ex relationship

Initially learn to let go, create the space to heal, then gradually start to move on.... When you use your ex to soothe your anxieties , you cannot heal. That can be an addiction. It is a challenge to heal when you are overly focused on your ex. All your other relationships will suffer, and you will be consumed by trying to change the situation with your ex. You might; Not be trying to heal , but focused on getting the attention of your ex. Not be exploring what went wrong, just hoping they come back. Not be investing in yourself, but focusing on them and their actions. Not be living your life, but trying to find ways to engage with your ex. Be trying to prove to the world that you are irresistible, by trying to get your ex back. Be finding it hard to stay away and feel soothed because you have some form of contact with your ex. Be trying to prevent your ex from moving on by staying around them, which prevents you from moving on. Not be letting go, but trying to prove them wrong. Feel jelous and not want to look like you lost. Do it in a subtle way, trying to find ways to meet up, and still unknowingly poking that wound. Be trying too hard, yet telling yourself that your ex will notice you for the great catch you are. Do your best to look great and show up where your ex hangs out. Criticise their new person so that you look indispensable. Be feeling temporary relief and highs from seeing your ex occasionally. Not realise that you are not putting yourself first when you try to or stay around your ex. Not be aware, because self-sabotage is hard to notice.... believing your behaviour is innocent. Results You might ...Not realise this, but you might be living each day for your ex.. ...Not realise this, but your ex might not even have the opportunity to miss you, if they know you will show up. ...Not know this, but your ex knows when you are trying too hard. ..Not realise this, but your ex might be living their best life without a dwelling on you. ...Not realise this, but your unhappiness does not have to be your ex's unhappiness. ...Not realise this, but life is short and people are on loan. You are missing the moment. ....Nor realise this, but you are abandoning yourself. Your ex might not learn to respect you. They might just tolerate you. Your ex; might label you. might not feel the need to resolve their side of things. Your pressure would seem to them you were in the wrong. might show off their new partner to trigger you. might make you a side person in their new relationship. You will not heal if you do not recognise they are an ex for reason. All you might need is 6 months away. Even if you reconnect with your ex at some point, give them some space to breathe for now. Space for you to heal and set a standard by which you are loved. Every moment and day you miss your ex, parent and heal the inner child to have some peace. Do what you would do for a child in your care feeling and thinking as you do. Look around you. Many other people love you. Do not focus on one person who is not in the zone!