The relationship contract!

Learn self-control, to avoid falling in love with people you have not met. Just because you are talking to someone online, and you feel a strong vibe, it does not mean it is there. There is a difference between reality and imagination. Wait for action and words to match. You cannot introduce a contract without clarity.

Until you meet someone and get to know them a bit over a period of three months of regular dates, it is safe to date without promises. Wait to confirm that you can get into a contract first.

Meeting someone for a few dates does not mean you are now in a committed relationship. Unless you have discussed relationship and agreed you are in one, do not make assumptions. Wait for confirmation of contract.

Just because you are in a relationship with someone, it does not mean you will be together forever. Continue to grow alone and with them in readiness for any outcome. Enjoy the moment and show up as you wish to see in the other person.

If you start a relationship, understand that you owe each other nothing, so be the person you want to date. Rather than jump to change the other person and their conditions, change yourself, your perspective and how you show up. Otherwise your purpose to get into a relationship is not to find someone to fix!

Being married to someone does not mean they have to give up their life or interests for you. Make sure you are constantly reviewing the contract and you are stepping into your role and not taking your partner for granted.

Sleeping with someone does not guarantee a relationship contract. Sex and committed relationships can be separate contracts.

Having children with someone does not mean you have access to them whenever and wherever. Co-parenting and romantic relationship are two different contracts.

If you meet someone show them respect and compassion. Understand what they are offering.

Respect your values and what you are looking for.

Accept their choices and make yours that are in your best interest.

Just as you do at work, introduce tools in your relationship that will help you to enjoy each other’s company, your individual lives and to grow in the connection.