The key to healing is hidden in the daily routine

What does healing constitute?

The key concept to understand is the dichotomy of control. Focus on what is within your control, and let go of attachment to outcomes or forcing outcomes. Just as you need to exercise freedom in your life, so do others.

There is more to take responsibility for in your life.

Healing involves self-parenting 24 hours a day to address your needs, just like what a loving parent would do for a child they love.

We mistakenly believe that healing is a big chunk of experience that happens in one go.

We might mistakenly believe we can wake up miraculously healed or changed one morning. Yet, we heal in stages, in drops of wellness, a process that unfolds one say at a time.

This is a reminder that healing happens every single day through a routine you incorporate in your daily life. Pouring small drops in your cup is key to healing. Healing happens in the form of love on three levels.

Through your everyday self-care practice practice, you practice acceptance, and start to feel loved by you, heard by you and acknowledged by you.

Healing happens when you repeatedly remind yourself to focus on yourself and address your needs like a loving parent; when to listen to your pain, explore its origin and soothe yourself like a loving parent.

Healing is about learning to make decisions in your best interest on a daily basis, on demand.

Healing happens in daily encounters when you recognise your triggers and realise you could have acted differently. Then tomorrow you might detach in a similar encounter and avoid self-betrayal.

Healing happens when you are able to recognise why you act as you act, and how it is affecting your life and relationships.

Healing is about changing habits and patterns and perspective which is something you practice on a daily basis.

On the second level

You acknowledge others and also acknowledge that you have challenges to address.

Trust and allow others to know and do their best. Let go of controlling outcomes.

So, if you have a desire to heal, seek accountability and support.

Seek coaching or therapy.

Seek co-parenting or a sponsor.

Accept feedback. Many people struggle because they have nobody to call them out.

Create a self-care routine incorporating four dimensions of existence:

Social dimensions - Healthy connections with boundaries.

Physical existence - Exercise and healthy eating, physically healthy environment.

Pyschological existence- Adddress ental health and emotional health. SIFTSEM.

Change your self-sabotage patterns, starting with detaching, then parenting yourself and journaling.

Spiritual - Create a morning routine and day routine. Meditation, gratitude, deep breaths, joy, affirmations, set an intention, segment intending. Mindfulness, forgiveness, kindness and helping others.

Reflect on your day and be a transformating human.

As you repeat self-care daily, you commit to the one person who needs you - You. In this state, you do not make it anyone's responsibility to take care of you and to make you happy. You also let go of control as you allow others to take care of themselves as their responsibility.

In this way, you can easily decide what is in your best interest, and look for others on the same page.

The SIFTSEM Journal: The self-healer`s diary to develop emotional awareness and self-management in 90 days. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B09CRNQDML/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_CD6XMJ551ESDAGF47SBC

Heal your inner child to connect with yourself!: Self-reparenting to strengthen the self-connection for quality life! https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08W3F34WG/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_PG4BEW9Z3W2EGBV79Z5P