The inner child running your relationships

How do you heal insecure attachment , codependency , integrate your shadow, or whatever name you might have assigned your present challenge?

You integrate your inner child! You learn to love yourself. You learn emotional intelligence You develop virtue.

Your challenges in life and relationships is due to a wounded inner child. The child that is owed healthy parenting by your caregivers. That child is the one who is in charge when your relationships are difficult and you are not taking action to improve your outcomes.

How do you know what the inner child is saying?

Pay attention to your behaviours. You might be fascinated to note that you are most likely employing child like strategies to solve problems.

These include... How do you know what the inner child is saying? Pay attention to your behaviours. You might be fascinated to note that you are most likely employing child like strategies to have your needs met.

These include... Manipulation instead of trusting , allowing and observing. Attention seeking behaviours instead of giving yourself attention. Demanding rather than suggesting. Forcing instead of asking. Threats instead of questions. Verbal and physical aggression instead of conversation. Cheating instead of being direct. Lies rather than requests. Begging instead of expressing. One dimensional thinking rather that open mindedness. Confrontations vs vulnerability.

Addressing the inner child.

Like any other child, your inner child needs a parent. The inner child needs to be heard, understood and

Pay attention to how you ask others to meet your needs! Your behaviour has underlying emotions. Learn to pause before action. Tune into your emotions. They have a message in them in the form of an unmet need.

Meet that need by self-parenting and creating solutions. Love yourself with five love languages and five senses.

Practice self-care daily.

Replace the behaviours that you normally employ when you feel those emotions with fit for purpose behaviours identified from your objective evaluation.

SIFTSEM and Love on three levels.