Tapping into our inner resources

Trauma interferes with self-leadership. The ability to lead our best lives. To tap into our inner resources and help ourselves through the decision making process. It might be helpful as we learn more about ourselves, to minimise relegating ourselves to helpless victims by blaming other people. And leaving out the work we need to do by labeling ourselves as helpless, unable, incapable or hopeless. By accessing our inner resources, we can explore ways to manage our challenges. To make decisions using our emotions. To tune into the wisdom of our bodies. To practice acceptance of what happens and use the tools at our disposal. To leave unhealthy relationships and situations. To choose what feels good. To get used to what feels good. With the resources invested in us, we are powerful and capable. The idea is to be resourceful. To use those resources within. Also explore those without, in the form of books, educators in our circles, at work, outside or at home. If we are to manage learned helplessness, it is important to; 1. Accept that there are no miracles. We create the small miracles daily, and these gradually build up to a big miracle, eventually. Accept and welcome the gestation process. We start with planting a seed of healing. A seed of growth. Each day we do something towards your growth, we are nurturing and feeding that seed. 2. Accept and look for help or accountability. If we have gone this long alone and struggling, it might be a grand idea to seek guidance support and accountability. Intensive for a while, then wean off gradually. 3. We are going to have to let go of old stuff to put new stuff in its place. Replace behaviours. Learn detachment. Replace attitudes. Replace thoughts such as black and white, or all-or-nothing thinking. Replace tools that we were using before with new fit for purpose tools. Replace people we do things with Replace routines. Wake up to ourselves, to self-care, instead of coffee or toast or news. 4. We need to welcome discomfort. Our comfort zone, while painful is what we are used to. When we start changing something, it is going to be painful. We will have to exercise new unused muscles and boy, that hurts initially. Through making changes, some people we thought were around for life, will be displaced. Some things, we will lose. It is going to be tough, but we need to prioritise our goals. Time has come to say no to learned helplessness. To say no to the belief that we cannot. Time to consider and decide that we can! Time to start doing. Put our foot forward, and take one step at a time. One day we can say, " We knew we could!"

Affirmations to repeat. "It is time for me to stay on the side of wellbeing" "Peacefulness is due unto me!" "I thrive , not just survive!" "I am powerful and able!" "I can change my life." "I deserve peacefulness." "Within me there is a deep well full of resources that I access to improve my life." "Help is always on the way!" I find support when I need it" I have everything I need within me to thrive! "