Supporting others

We find ourselves from time to time requiring support from others. We have grown and survived due to support from others. We all exist here because of others, and for others. It is beneficial and life giving to do something for others. To help others. To be there for others. Many times we support people because we can get something from them, then stop when we do not benefit from them. Sometimes we are supported by others, and we stop acknowledging them when their support ends. There is nothing wrong with these two scenarios. We can only take people as far as we are supposed to take them. People can also take us as far as they are supposed to. Nobody owes anyone anything. This is one thing we need to take with us in friendships and connections. And in romantic relationships too. The only important factor is that we carry other people's kindness in our hearts and take it to others who need it. Having been supported by others, we owe a debt to the universe. We can repay this debt, not necessarily to those who supported us, but to someone in need. We can continue to plant more seeds from the fruits of the labour of kindness bestowed on us by another previously. In supporting others, we find our blessings too. In doing something without expecting payment, we practice appreciation, satisfaction and contentment. In this state, we are also likely to have our desires fulfilled. Supporting is not enabling. When someone comes into our experience, they are there to heal us in some way. Sometimes in supporting another, we are led to someone who can help us with something we need in our lives. When we come together, it is not by accident. We can pass on our wisdom and things to one another. One of the greatest sources of suffering is an inability to give or to be supportive without wanting fame, money or recognition. One of the sources of unhappiness is a lack of desire to be there for others who cannot give you anything back in return. Sometimes, the reason we might struggle to accomplish our desires is because we are too self-focused. Supporting others requires regulation, and boundaries. And not feeling entitled for what you have done. It is what you need(ed) to do. Let us not compete or compare. Let us be there when required, and then allow others to proceed. We do not give from an empty cup. We refill our individuals first. We have so much we can give to others. We have a well that does not dry. We have love infinite. Love can heal us all.