Struggling to access your inner child?

When you are not accessing your inner child here are some suggestions and questions; 1. Am I accepting my painful past as well as accepting responsibility for healing and re-parenting my inner child? 2. Am I being defensive and afraid to "dig deeper" or explore repressed emotions? That is the inner child in charge. 3. Spend more time on your own, doing little things that trigger emotions in you. 4. Explore snippets of your childhood memories, great and no so great moments, music, sports, creativity, friendships etc. Put it in writing and access emotions as you do this exercise. 5. Draw, createhttps://youtu.be/-_dTtHriNlkhttps://youtu.be/-_dTtHriNlk and write(journal) 6. When the discomfort comes, sit with it incrementally. Do not take action to distract yourself to numb it. This is when you can feel what is happening inside of you. Start with a minute, then get back to it and increase until you are ok to practice mindful awareness longer. 7. Work on minimising rationalisation or being logical. It is a coping mechanism. Take your time to defer to feeling things out instead. 8. Introduce embodiment strategies in your life. Feminine energy gets you into your body so you rely on feelings too. You become softer, warmer and more compassionate to yourself. Find ways to get into your feminine energy on the group. 9. Constantly make compassionate self enquiries to yourself rather than externally. Pause and reflect before action, or a reply and ask yourself..."Why do I do, what I do?" "Why do I feel this way about this?" 10. Focus and work on negative thinking or anything that triggers you. As you minimise projections, judgements and reactions etc., you will develop more acceptance and more self compassion and that is in a way integrating the inner child. 11. Inner child comes with a set of beliefs from our conditioning. Beliefs are strengthened by our habits which in turn are demonstrated by our behaviours. What self sabotaging behaviours can I work on, that are keeping me in this pattern? 12.Discipline- Am I repeating this practice of self enquiry and nurturing my inner child daily? Stop and start and getting back to old behaviours can keep us in patterns. Consistency is always key. Keep little promises to yourself and the inner child will benefit too from understanding these commitments. The inner child shows up either way, when we react, project, lash out or repeat negative patterns. However, the point is to, yes access and integrate her so that we know when its time to play and when its time to take care of business in the world https://youtu.be/-_dTtHriNlk https://youtu.be/-_dTtHriNlk