Staying in a toxic relationship for the sake of the children.

Staying in a toxic relationship for the sake of the children.

Yes, children benefit from a situation where both parents love each other. Being together and dysfunctional is not in their interest. It just might be a subconscious excuse. It is not for the children that people stay together in unhealthy situations.

It is neither good for you, not for the children to stay in a toxic relationship. However, until and unless you know why you do what you do, it is hard to change. It does not benefit your children to live in a dynamic where parents are unhappy. In fact it is traumatic for children to be raised in a situation where either parents are unhappy or are constantly fighting. When parents are fighting or a parent is unhappy due to their relationship situation, it is hardly likely that they will be present for themselves, less so for the children. Most of how a parent who is unhappy responds to their children is based on survival. As much as a parent might feel they are doing their best, in a situation where they are struggling emotionally, their emotional currents leak in their interactions with their children. What a parent might believe to be a clever way to hide their pain, will lead to a child trying to protect the parent by developing strategies to cope. Children pick up our pain without the need for us to put it in words. Most of what a parent who is in an unhappy situation or relationship does is just survival Explore healing work to develop an awareness of why you are in this situation. Reflect on the damage to children your emotional currents cause. Additionally, an essential element to observe is that a toxic dynamic is co-created. Before you leave, explore what the dynamic looks like and what might be enabling it. Before you leave, try to change how you do relationships If it is a toxic dynamic. Look into ways you can learn to communicate in a healthy way. You have your contribution to the relationship, whether healthy or toxic. Contribution can be enabling. Look into how you can step back, lean back and detach from an outcome. Look into saying less and being more. Heal urgency and impatience. It benefits you and the children if you heal, and focus on yourself because the dynamic might stabilise even just a bit. When you take care of yourself you will be in a position to decide what is best for you. Finally, even when you move on, you will be best placed to choose healthily and do a healthy relationship because you know better and do better. You want the quality of life, and in the moment of healing, you reminded yourself that you were taking yourself to the next relationship and you prepared yourself. The actions you choose will help you and your children. Remember, your children are relying on you to learn to do life and do relationships.

Your children's future depends on how you look after them. How you look after your children includes your emotional states and physical environment. It helps not to only think of yourself, but to think of the future generations.

To think of the impact of your choices and decisions on your children. How are you contributing to their well-being? Heal for the future generations!

It helps not to only think of yourself, but to think of the future generations. How are you contributing to their well-being