Spiritual road rage

As we travel on the journey of life with others, we need to be aware of our road rage and its impact on the quality of our lives and relationships.

On the actual road, many people rage a lot towards what they term bad drivers. Yet at one point or the other, we are all bad drivers. When we all go on the roads, we also understand the risks. None of us needs be an instructor, especially while driving and also likely to rage. Not that, sometimes we cannot wave, hoot or feel frustrated. Acceptance and letting go is key, because life will happen, people will brake or make a wrong turn. Yet, we will also happen, and we cannot control anyone outside the self.

On social media streets, we rage against different opinion , or something unwanted posted. Yet, we can also post unwanted stuff and can learn to scroll past stuff unwanted.

In real life some people rage against injustices. Yet, the energy used to rage can give birth to more unwanted experiences in the universe. The fastest way to address these these injustices is to address self-injustice.

We rage against a misbehaving partner, when we also make mistakes. Or we rage when we stay in a bad relationship and therefore compound the toxicity.

Managing road rage

We can accept that we cannot get rid of bad drivers.

Identify that we are also bad drivers sometimes.

Every bad driver we encounter is a great driver sometimes. If we think of ourselves as good drivers that is!

We need to learn to calm down and parent ourselves.

We can take deep breaths when feeling triggered or noticing bad driving.

We can own our individual experience.

We can accept different perspective.

We can let go of control. We also make mistakes.

We can change our social circles.

We can learn to find out why we feel road rage that takes away our sense of peacefulness.

Heal for the world

Sometimes we silently rage against anyone who says or writes what we do not agree with. That might not be that bad after all, unless it translates into hating others.

One point to note is that when people rage against anything or anyone, they are raging against themselves foremost. They are disconnected and self-harming.

Because the road rage , the social media rage, or rage against injustice is a sign of their self-relationship.

When disconnected people lack congruence. A need to distract from what they feel within causes them to project.

Raging helps these people to seemingly self-soothe. Road rage makes them feel as if they are superb humans, and these perceived road offenders, social media offenders or real life offenders were not cut from the right fabric.

We are all nowhere near perfect, yet we can develop awareness.. No, we do not have to like everything, or agree with everyone, but if it is none of our business, we can notice that no accident happened, and let it go. We can scroll past or be curious and ask a question or make a recommendation. We can work on improving the self-relationship rather than try to change others.

The best form of activism is self-development. As we improve our awareness, one person at a time, we also pass that on to our circle and children. Eventually we will fill up the tank.

Rather than focusing on other bad "drivers" to change their behaviours so that they feel good, focusing on themselves to improve their responses is more beneficial. Rather than focus on the bad behaviour of a partner, they can live and set a standard for their self-love.

They also need to remember that, to other drivers, they might be bad drivers, or someone might simply not like their car.

What helps more is learning forgive themselves for choosing parts of others to love, instead of paying attention to behaviour.

Because when they have road rage towards anyone, they harm themselves psychologically foremost. Road rage is a form of child abuse to the inner child and affects the social dimension and relationships.

Their road rage affects their body physiology and therefore their physical dimension.

Their road rage affects their spiritual dimension, because spirituality is about integration of all of the person into a whole.