Some hopeless situations some women end up in

From the outset a man might make his intentions clear, but a woman might choose to disregard his communication. She might be focusing on the end goal- a relationship.

Just beat the following in mind ladies.

1. A man who is interested in you will want to know about you. He will also talk about himself so that you get to know him. If there is no transparency or openness from the start , that is a red flag.

2. If a man wants to text only without talking to you on the phone, listen to the alarm bells. A person who cares about you will want to hear your voice and converse rather than text. Text messages are great between face to face conversation , and phone calls.

3. Be honest with a man about who you are, so that he chooses you for you, not for a fantasy. By being honest you can avoid anxiety triggered by lying and the struggle to keep your secrets safe.

4. Be careful about associating with a man who is interested in gossip. Or a man who likes to be surrounded by a lot of women. He will find it hard to lose the attention.

5. If a man does not respect you, no matter how good you are, he most likely never will. Unless you respect yourself and walk away.

6. If a man is a serial cheat, he has little capacity to change. People only change when there is incentive. Serial means there are no boundaries to challenge him.

7. A man who has shown you that he is not, or is no longer interested in you should be believed. Set him free.

8. Beware of the alcoholic or addicted man. If he has not sought help, understand that alcohol or substance will remain his solution.

9. A man who ignores you or does not keep his promises without explanation triggers you. You do not need that in your life.

10. A man who does not have manners and is incapable of apologising can drain you. You might have to keep taking responsibility or questioning yourself.

11. If you meet a man who wants a virgin(petty, but yes, they exist) and you are not, be honest and if you have to leave him, do so.

12. A married man is married. Simple. You are not responsible to help him fix his relationship issues by providing him with bad solutions such as sex outside his marriage.

13. If a man stops communication with you , respect that this is communication enough. If he wanted to explain he would have told you his reasons for leaving before he left. Let him go.

14. Avoid falling pregnant and or continuing to sleep with the guy to please him and keep him around. This is not in your best interest.

STOP Assess why you are doing this to yourself. Also, Assess what is best for you. These cat and mouse relationships do not end well.

You are in pursuit of someone who is making it clear that he is not your man.

You might feel compelled to chase this man who is "running away" because you have strong feelings for him. Maybe, you have known each other for a long time.

Or he is good looking so you feel you have to have him because he is attractive (things people do!)

Or because you feel your biological clock is ticking, and you have to have a boyfriend/husband now.

In that mode you might want to convince him that you are a match, or you are a great catch.

Or you might want to convince the world you can do relationship.

Or that this man is missing out and that you will make him happy. Only you can do this amazing job to keep him loved!

Unfortunately, this situation will not make you happy. When you try to make him happy, or to meet his needs; remember, his happiness is not your business. Your business is to make yourself happy by looking for someone who will reciprocate. By looking for a relationship that is in your best interest.