Solution focused rumination. Your ultimate way out of your trigger

Trauma affects self leadership, a sense of being in charge of yourself. It is for this reason that you might make decisions that lead to self-betrayal. One key component of healing trauma is to use emotions as guidance for creating solutions in your best interest. SIFTSEM is a useful too to pause, feel your emotions and use them to guide you to create solutions.

Having identified your root cause of the trigger or the unmet needs, the next logical step is to meet those needs. You are like a distressed child and mother needs to take care of him and her in this moment. However, while baby is you, mother is also you. When you are triggered, there are unmet needs that are automatically activated, besides the unmet needs directly linked to your trigger. Peacefulness, order and balance as your world is thrown into chaos. Safety , as you struggle to maintain emotional self-control. To be in control of yourself and your emotions. There are three timeliness of solutions immediate, intermediate/short term and long term. The first or immediate solution to apply when triggered, or after reacting is to ground yourself and bring back a sense of order in your life. Immediately during trigger evaluation, even post trigger evaluation, breathe deeply to ground. This allows you to scan your body and SIFT. Apply love languages and soothe as you would do for a baby. Rub your hands together to connect with your body. Give yourself a regulatory hug and rock yourself. Speak kindly to yourself. Repeat gratitude for being alive. Remember how you managed similar situations before. Do a cathartic shake to help you to release the tension. Apply reframes because there is more perspective out there. Reverse roles to appreciate diverse perspective. As you sit there, apply intermediate solutions for what you will do post objective evaluation, and perhaps in the next 6 months depending how you wish to arrange your goals. Solutions are twofold. 1. For the past or triggered unmet needs 2. For the present 1. What can you do to minimise constant triggering of the past or the impact of triggers? For any and every trigger or life situation, uou benefit from improving your emotional baseline through self-care to soothe and parent your inner child. Learn tools to manage triggers Heal the inner child. 2. Apply specific solutions for the present situation that led to being triggered. If someone said or did something, after applying reframes, consider whether there is need for boundaries or to express a request or communicate plans. Or even do nothing. Long term solutions can range from the end of the intermediate to a time unknown in the future. They include foremost consistency with self-care Continuing or initiating inner child work. Next, they include evaluate of short term goals Applying goals that are helpful long term