Signs you need therapy not a relationship right now

Sometimes, in our rush to get into a romantic relationship, we might not recognise the present priority. The priority might be healing. Not saying you need to stop your relationship, but recognise whether you need therapy or a relationship. What that means also is, recognise whether you need to prioritise self-care while you are in your relationship. 1. When you are controlling a partner in a relationship. If you have to control someone to be seen, that is not a good reason to be in a relationship. 2. When you constantly fight with partners. If you are addicted to chaos and do not know how to resolve conflict, you might need to seek healing. 3. When you do not trust anyone and have to keep trying to change something. Mistrust leads to abuse. If you are unable to trust anyone, you might also be struggling with self trust. Work on self-love. 4. When you believe a relationship will be the only reason for your happiness. Nurture yourself and fill your own cup. There are other relationships out there to invest in. 5. When you can do anything to be in a relationship. Desperation is not healthy. Explore healthy reasons to be in a relationship. 6. When you have to convince people that you are happy in a relationship when you are struggling. It is you who is going to be in that relationship. So, you need to fix the dynamic through fixing your self relationship. Others people's opinion of your relationship do not matter if you are unhappy. 7. When you put up with bad behaviour. If you do not act on red flags you can end up in a toxic dynamic. Prioritise self-love. 8. When people around you are affected by your relationships. Your children are relying on you to fill their cup. If you are unhappy, they will not thrive. 9. Unhappy when a partner is away. Rely on yourself to nurture and parent yourself. Invest in your interests. Learn to welcome and appreciate the space. 10. You are still attached to an ex. If you have not healed from your ex, you might carry the baggage of the previous relationship into the next one. 11. You revenge when things go wrong in a relationship. Learn conflict resolution, dichotomy of control and letting go. Nobody owes you anything in life and relationships. 12. You hate the opposite sex or people in general. If you hate people, how do you date people? 13. You do not believe that there are people out there who can meet your needs. Generalisations from scarcity mindset lead you to believe that there is nobody who can meet your needs. Work on yourself and meet a mirror. Heal the inner child connect with yourself. A romantic relationship is a bonus, and not everything.