Sex is not a pathway to commitment

One mistake to avoid in life is to use sex as a weapon to get commitment or to stay in someone's life.

There are people out there violating their bodies to keep a man or woman. Giving in to sexual fantasies of a partner that they do not agree with, just to "be in a relationship!"

Some people will make an excuse and hold on to someone they had sex, while they are being violated by this person psychologically, socially and spiritually or even physically, with inconsistency and maltreatment.

Just because you are sleeping with someone, it does not mean you are going to get the relationship you want.

Sex does not translate to commitment.

Sex does not mean you are compatible.

If you agree to do sexual acts that you do not really like because you fear losing someone , that is an act of self-betrayal.

If someone tells you they are going to leave their partner because there is no sex, and you agree to sleep with them, remember, there are no guarantees. They might just enjoy the best of both worlds. Sex is not a the pathway to commitment. There has to be more than sex for this person to commit to you..

If your partner wants to video tape your sex or share your sex acts to others or have perform other types of sexual practices that you cannot stand, then do not do it for them.

Avoid sleeping with someone before you are ready because you fear losing them.

Do not accept getting other people in your relationship because you fear losing your partner.

Sexual compatibility is as essential as other values that matter.

Identify where you have differences and take action from that point. You can end up accusing someone of being abusive because you got along just to go along.

Do and accept the sex that you agree with only. Beyond that, if there is pressure, have boundaries and leave. No amount of sex will keep someone around if you are not compatible. Besides, even if you are compatible in other areas, self-betrayal will make you unhappy for life.