The art of adulting. Only you can save you first.

The art of adulting. Only you can save you first.

We have lived this life with challenges and hoping that something will change for the better. We have believed that there might be something that will miraculously untangle.

We might keep doing the same thing, yet hoping for different results. Keep pushing for answers ee are not getting from someone. About something.

We might keep hoping another person will change to make us feel happy. Or that our children need to behave to be loved. Or our colleagues will do things differently so that we do not have to feel so sad at work. Or the public can be more caring, more attentive and more of those things we admire.

Yet, that might have applied as children. We needed our parents to do something so that our lives would be different. Our children expect the same. Sadly, if you and I expect our partners or others to do things differently, then surely , perhaps the partners are also expecting us to change our approach.

That can only mean one thing. We are at an impasse, and something has got to give. So, who changes? What changes?

What changes is what individuals decide to change that is in their control. What changes is you and I and the partner choosing to take action to improve how we show up. Individually. By learning to embrace triggers as an opportunity to grow and to create solutions.

What changes is taking responsibility for one's life and applying root cause to problems and challenges. Not ignoring negative emotions and triggers to jump to positivity, then becoming depressed when things do not change. Creating solutions that help change take shape .

Being ready to accept when our inner circle says no to us when we throw tantrums. People who might recognise that when we are reverting to our childhood strategies, what we want might not be best for us. Being honest about the work we need to do and doing it. Avoiding pretense and the covering up of our pain. Prioritising our healing instead of making it a lesser priority. Our wellbeing depends on our personal development. Ensuring we create a "must have" slot for self-care and emotional regulation and journaling.

Recognising that there is nothing to be gained by complaining and blaming others. Spend that time reflecting and journaling. Being OK by ourselves and not attaching to things or people to avoid ourselves. .

Trusting the process and allowing the gestation process. If we do not invest in something with different reframed thoughts , changed behaviours and new routines, we might not really experience its fullness when it is birthed. We have not been there to witness its birth.

Healing comes with paying attention and doing something about our existence.

Learn tools. Learn responsibility. Being the parents we need. The lover of our lives. The sibling, sister and friend. Being the colleagues we admire at work, the partner who is there forever. Learning to let go. There is no better day to start.

One more day of delay is one more day of unhappiness. Avoiding excuses. Starting today. To improve the remainder of our lives. Through improved self-relationship and therefore the rest of our relationships.

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